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Marriage is best worked out on the foundations of love and work. When love culminates in marriage, theory passes into the stage of practicality. It is through joint endeavour and elation in each other's success that married life attains its desired end in the worldly sense. In the first few years the married couple may need reassurances from their partners inter se more than when they become more mature and get somewhat settled in their life and suited to each other. The interchange of love and loyalty at this stage has to assume both active and passive functions: active in the sense that to speed, goad and guide the other partner would be just as necessary as passive acceptance and reciprocity of feelings. This, however, calls for much tolerance and stamina in both the partners and generally love and strong attachment provide the sense and judgment when mature reasoning may be lacking. It may be sometimes necessary for the young husband to talk about his office, his boss, his' colleagues, his efficiency to the wife at dinner or at other intimate moments. It is equally expected of the wife to talk of laundry, crockery or curtains when the young man's head is full of sales promotion ideas. The diverse currents meet somewhere and that is how two young people may shape their marriage nest, depending solely on the spirit of toleration, appreciation and encouragement, despite the fact that they lack the experience of their elders.
Where the husband and wife are both working, they have to adjust themselves with regard to each other's work. The wife may be a teacher and the husband may be an engineer. Both of them may bring home things to study and correct and unless each gets into the habit of showing respect or imporOn the contrary, it may sound. astounding how personal support or a stand-by attitude by one may help the other get ahead with his work. Thus the husband and wife may help each other in their work, though their vocations and work have nothing in common. Where . the work is the same and they are more or less colleagues like two professors, scientists, doctors, lawyers, a greater spirit of accommodation may be needed. Here, personal feelings, individualistic ideas, superiority and inferiority complexes and other sentiments in case of competitors have to be played down. If the husband thinks that it is he who should be ahead, he is committing the greatest blunder and where the wife is endowed with better gifts, the husband has simply to tag on to her. What is more, he should give all the encouragement and support to his wife. By this he is not making any sacrifice, he is only trimming his ego to desirable size.
The terms equality and equitableness are good milestones in the household of working spouses. Equality is by all means a noble word but a more justifiable is equitableness. It would be impractical to think of equality where the two married partners have different capabilities. At the same time, they may settle down to concede to each other equitable values on the basis of each other's performance and significance. No watertight compartments are possible in this and a wife is entitled to equitable and equal treatment even if she has not much material practicableness. It is when the family vocations join hands and the husband and wife strive for higher and higher attainments individually and together under the fostering care of each other that the married couple's competence is the highest.
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