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Mixing may be homogeneous or heterogeneous. In the latter case, since the opposite sexes are brought together and in close proximity, they learn the art of coexisting with one another. Simple coexistence, however, is to be distinguished from proper mixing. This is because in the former case, in an association or organisation, the gents' and ladies sections may be separate and segregated, and they may not come in close contact with one another except in times of some general functions or ceremonies. This type of side-by-side existence has no proper meaning from the etiquette point, of view except that one should stay away and should not be in the way of the other section's activities.
A true mixing of the sexes may be called for in some married couples' clubs or some associations where men and women work hand-in-hand for the fulfilment of their mission. The first of these etiquettes would refer to the awareness of the other. It would be the height of bad manners if a person is so self-conscious, shy or snobbish that he or she is indifferent to a member of the opposite sex or that act may be tantamount to such indifference. If awareness is maintained and properly applied, two members of the opposite sex may talk pleasantly in the spirit of two members of equal status. The important thing to remember in this is that there ought to be no purposefulness in such discourses. These talks or casual meetings may take place for a few moments when the male and the female members may simply smile and nod at one another at landings, at entrances or elsewhere, or they may stand on the sprawling lawns of the club premises on a winter afternoon and discuss various topics for hours together. Similarly, men and women out on a social camp job may be cramped or huddled together in a van or a compartment and spend a dreary hour or two or half a day by enlivening the occasion with conversation," jokes and snacks.
A prolonged mixing of this type may create in a person, male or female, the ability to mix, firstly, for the sake of mixing and, secondly, to let sympathy and the helping attitude ooze out of his very being. It is when companionship or friendliness is established between the opposite sexes without any demands that the experience of belonging to mixed groups may be said to have matured. There is no particular way a person should behave in front of a member of the opposite sex of the same group except that the concerned behaviour has to be within the bounds of reason and decency. The sense of decency, however, varies from group to group and as long as basic good behaviour is maintained, obscenities and abuses are eliminated, the pattern of mixing may be somewhat relaxed or totally disciplined.
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