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If showing-off comes from some kind of conceit or peculiar individuality, the assuming of an affected style may be said to be the result of an inner consciousness of some deficiency. When a person feels that he or she is deficient in something, that person may try to cover up this shortcoming by copying the style of another. The affected style nevertheless falls easily into the class of showing-off because it may be taken as an expression of trying to establish oneself and would be akin to the behaviour of an extrovert. A person smokes a cigarette in a different and showy manner, he pronounces certain wofds differently, he holds bis glass or his cup prominently, he wears his dress elaborately in a sophisticated manner. Many of these actions become ingrained in his nature and cannot be remedied due to long use. How far should this somewhat conspicuous, if not unnatural, behaviour be tolerated? In reply we may say that not all such manners can be branded as bad manners, like sophistication, or an outstanding taste in dress and decoration, and it may be added that much of this affected behaviour may not look so bad, after all, since it has been ingrained in the general characteristics of the persons concerned.
It cannot be denied that we are prone to copy tbose whom we love, admire and adore and there is no shaking off of this tendency unless our love for ourselves becomes over-prominent to cover the other's image. Our beloved's words and actions may seep into us without our knowing and not all of the affectations can be got rid of because these habits may progressively fall off as a certain person progresses on the path of success and acquires his own individual manners. What is, however, advised under the circumstances is that a person should try to strive to establish his own self and to find out the truth about himself. Here he will have to see and analyse what are his individual manners and what he has borrowed from others, which is not a part of his inborn nature. In most cases, a person can easily differentiate between his natural and artificial behaviour if he tries sincerely, or he may rely on the versions and impressions of his friends and relations. If he once takes to artificial behaviour, people may have a poor impression about him because in whatever dreamland he may be for others, it is normally quite easy to know what is real and what is artificial in another's behaviour.
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