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CompetenceAdded on:7/11/2008 12:38:05 PM
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Competence is the end-product of good manners and etiquette. A person with good manners is easily acceptable, while another with shortcomings in this direction may be rejected outright. A salesman may talk and yet fail to promote a sale, a representative may bring down heaven and earth and yet fail to get the two sides reconciled, and so also there may be all types of - persons who may do everything in their power ta impress the other side but prove unsuccessful in the end. Good manners and etiquette should make a man perfectly sociable and capable. One may learn the correct manners and etiquette from more than one source or may have these dicta hammered into his mind by others. All these efforts notwithstanding, a person may remain quite foreign to good manners. The answer to the above may be found in the very person's power to assimilate and absorb things and then make them his own. A training in manners has to be more practical than theoretical. Unless a person mixes with different kinds of people and subjects himself to various types of tests in practical situations, he can hardly become perfect in this respect. He has to implement the things he learns from books and other sources. He has to acquire the virtues of humility, politeness and soft speech as also cultivate quiet commonsense and show due consideration to others. He has to practise these things in his daily life without conscious effort. A man may have achieved a near-perfect stance in all these day-to-day manners but if he is selfishly disposed, all these good qualities will be of no use: to him. At the slightest crossing of minds and. chances of his having to make some sacrifice, he may forget himself and all his acquired good habits may lie scattered about him.
It would be evident that along with the learning of good manners, a person has to train himself in all forms of mental control together with, his moral character and refined habits. His competence would be apparent with the results that may be produced, and the well-mannered man who has acquired the art one hundred per cent in a fool-proof manner would certainly be able to achieve his objective, at least to a greater extent than another who is not so well-groomed. Where, however, there are chinks in the training and adoption of the right attitudes, success may not be assured, in which circumstance, it is better for him to try to re-equip himself in a better and more thorough way than look here and there for a panacea for his predicament. An old addage says, a well-mannered man can conquer the world with his tact, soft-spoken speech, understanding, patience, goodwill, readiness to serve and sacrifice, and above all, with his polished etiquette. We can see the living truth of this in the world about us. Such a man radiates around him, like the lily of the valley, the beauty of good manners, which indeed are, in a manner of speaking, the effluence of the fountain of all Beauty.
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